Getting Your Group Unstuck

Getting Your Group Unstuck

You can sense it in the gathering and see it on the people. There is no life, the same few individuals attend, and it’s the same stories. The small group has gotten stuck. Don't worry, this happens to the best of leaders. The great news is that there are simple solutions to address this problem. Here are some practical suggestions that will help get your group unstuck:

 

1.    Reevaluate time and location.

A common reason why people can't make group is because of a change in schedule. A meeting time that worked in one season might not work in another. If there is a trend of inconsistencies in attendance, it might be an opportunity to reevaluate the meeting day and time with members. Another possibility is that members have gotten bored with the current meeting location. A simple change in scenery can bring new excitement to the group.

 

2.    Connect outside of group.

One of the motivations for a small group is discipleship through relationship. We grow in God by being in relationship with one another. If people are only connecting once a week in group, it might be a sign of a lack in relational depth. This provides an excellent opportunity to do something outside of group to spark a connection. Consider having a movie night, a BBQ, or something fun for group members as well as those they are reaching. 

 

Another reason a person stops attending group may be because of a personal struggle that they are facing. They could be discouraged or ashamed, which causes them to withdraw from the group. This is an excellent opportunity to reconnect with them over lunch or coffee. A personal touch of care, support, and prayer could be just what they need.

 

3.    Confront difficult people.

Often times, people stop attending group because of a difficult person within the group. This includes someone who dominates the discussion, is constantly negative, or even soliciting members for business. As leaders, we need to cultivate safe environments for connection. If we notice this happening in our group, we need to confront this individual about their behavior lovingly. 

 

4.    Recast vision.

Vision leaks. Over time, people forget the heart and motivation behind small groups. As leaders, we need to remind about why we meet as a group—to be disciples and to make disciples. Everyone naturally drifts inward, and fresh vision could be what is needed to inject life into group members. 

 

5.    Pray and pursue.

As leaders, we need to always keep the mission alive by continuously praying for lost people at each meeting. We also need to be making time to pursue them in our schedules consistently. This behavior is caught, not just taught. As leaders, we need to model and lead our members to live the actions that we want them to embody.

Discussion Questions:

·      What is one word that would best describe your small group and why?

·      Share with one another best practices that have helped in the past.

·      What is something that you can immediately apply from this discussion to bring life to your small group?

 

Prayer:

·      Pray for groups to get unstuck and back on mission.

·      Pray for those far from God and for those who have drifted to return.  

Communications:

  • Main Campus Parking 

    Our heart is for people far from God, and we want to be a church that is easy for guests to attend. One issue that we consistently face is the lack of parking in our main campus parking lot. We are asking leaders and those who are able to consider parking at Mary Savio or Buzz’s to free up parking in the main lot for guests and visitors. Let's park far so that people far from God can come near.

 
  • Jeff Kemp Youth Blitz FridayAugust 16 at 7pm in our Main Campus

    Calling out all parents and youth to hear from 11-year NFL quarterback Jeff Kemp. He will share his story to encourage and inspire young people towards the purposes of God.

 
 
  • Elevate Night Tuesday, August 20 at 7pm in our Main Campus

    Get a behind the scenes look of weekend production at Pearlside. This is an opportunity to discover and join the different creative teams that collaborate within our church.

 

Creating a Safe Space for Discipleship

Creating a Safe Space for Discipleship

Over the years, we’ve noticed many people come through our church, get radically touched by God, but strangely stopped coming for one reason or another. One reason is that if people don’t have a “safe place” to be real, honest, and transparent, true spiritual transformation will not take place and people will stop growing and eventually stop following God.  Openness and transparency with God and others is vitally necessary for spiritual growth. Often our natural fear of being judged and falling short of expectations creates guilt and shame in us that causes us to “cover and hide” rather than to be open and honest. So how do we create safe environments for people to be open, honest, and transparent? How can we help people to feel loved and safe to “come out of hiding” in order to process life and truly experience spiritual transformation? Active Listening is a practical way to create this safe environment in our discipleship and small group settings.

 

Active Listening: A.I.R.

(Adapted from Betsy A. Barber, PsyD)

Attending

  • We must be “absent from ourselves” to attend to the person. This requires putting aside our own emotions to be present for the other person.

  • Have an open and receptive posture. People respond to our non-verbal cues far more than our words.

  • Be mindful of:

    • Body language

    • Facial expression

    • Tone of voice

  • The goal is to make the other person feel safe to share in a judgement free environment.

 

Inviting and Asking:  

  • Invite the person to share and ask open ended questions to invite them to share further.

  • Play ignorant, don’t assume anything.

  • Asking questions demonstrates sincere interest in the person and makes them feel safe to share deeper.

  • Respectfully ask, Who, What, Where, When, and How questions to stimulate their thinking.

  • Avoid “why” because they may not know the answer.

  • Asking questions and listening intently shows empathy and invites people to come out of hiding.

  • Suspend giving advice or sharing “your experience” or perspective which can make the person feel unsafe.

 

Responding:

  • Once the person has shared fully, we can now respond.

  • Summarize what you heard them share: Example. “What I heard you say was ____.”

  • Empathize: Give your best guess or hunch, “I can imagine you must be feeling ____.”

  • This will help the person to feel heard as well as expose any gaps in communication.

  • Lead: “What do you think the Lord is trying to say through this?”

    • The assumption is that the Holy Spirit has already or will speak to the person about what they should do. We are inviting them to listen to His voice. Often, they already know the answer.

  • Pray: Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal what He wants to reveal to the person.

    • Make room for the Holy Spirit to speak and confirm His word to them.

 

Activity:

Pair up. Discuss with one another a difficult challenge you faced this past week. As one person is sharing, the other actively faces the and attends to them for 30 seconds. After the 30 seconds, the person listening continues to listen but shifts their body away from the person speaking. Then reverse roles.

 

Discussion Questions:

·      What emotions did you feel when the person listening turned away from you? How did that affect the way you communicated with them?

·      In light of the Active Listening points, what area do you need to grow in? What can you do to create environments for transparency in group and discipleship meetings?

 

Prayer:

·      Pray that we would create safe environments for people to come out of hiding.

  

Communications:

  • Main Campus Service Time Change – Starting SundayJuly 7, our College & Young-Adult service will be moving to 7:45pm.

 
  • Discipleship Track – This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

 

THURSDAY CYCLE:

JULY 11 - AUGUST 1
Main Campus - Worship Hall
(7:00pm - 9:00pm with Live Teaching & Food)

 

Childcare fees for children in 6th grade and under for all four weeks:

$20 for one child | $8 for each additional child
No refunds will be given if you are no longer able to attend.

Childcare registration deadline for JULY Discipleship Track - Wednesday, July 3

 
  • Pearlside Youth Camp – It’s summertime which means two things: (1) You’re on summer vacation and (2) YOUTH CAMP IS NEAR! This year, we’re having TWO back-to-back camps, one for Middle School and one for High School. Every year, God exceeds our expectations and every student leaves changed and transformed for Christ. So mark your calendars, start saving some money, ask God to prepare your hearts, and we’ll see YOU at camp!

 

Middle School | July 25-27

Camp Pu`u Kahea Conference Center
Cost: $140

High School | July 27-30

Camp Pu`u Kahea Conference Center
Cost: $175

 

10 Marks of Effective Group Meetings Revisited

10 Marks of Effective Group Meetings Revisited

In April, we discussed the 10 Marks of Effective Group Meetings when leading our Grace Groups, which are our primary means for discipleship. We also discussed the specific areas we as leaders could improve on in order to elevate the environment of fruitfulness and growth in the discipleship of our GG members. Below is a review of the 10 marks:

 

1.    The leaders are prepared by reviewing and understanding the GG guide and preparing their responses to the questions. 

2.    There is a healthy relational atmosphere before the meeting starts and after it ends. New people are made to feel comfortable. 

3.    The group meeting starts and ends at a designated time. (1-1.15 hrs max) 

4.    The group size is managed to ensure everyone is comfortable and participates. 

5.    The Grace Group Discussion Guide is used and the group leader keeps the group on topic. 

6.    The main thought and passages are clearly understood by everyone. Everyone engages in the discussion. 

7.    The tripod sets the tone for transparency. 

8.    Personal takeaways and applications are clear for each person. 

9.    The group closes in prayer being sensitive to the new people in the group. 

10. Discipleship of new people happens outside of the group meetings using approved materials (PDL, O2O, PB, etc.) 

 

Discussion Question: 

·      Which of these best practices did you identify as ones you needed to improve last month? Share updates on how that has been going and any positive impact that it has created in your Grace Group meetings and the discipleship of the members.

·      Are there any best practices you’ve realized you still need to improve? What are some practical next steps you can take to immediately address them?

 

Prayer: 

·      Pray that our members remain focused on loving God and loving others this Summer season.

·      Pray that our members would make consistent time in their week to reach out to the person or people God has called them to this year.

 

Communications:

  • Growth Track – NO classes in June - (Main Campus, Cityside, and Kaneohe ONLY). Classes resume in July.

  • Marriage Huddle – Like a new car, a marriage traveling together upon the road of life will eventually encounter bumps or potholes that may bring misalignment or friction into the marriage relationship. In the Marriage Huddle, John and Lisa Bevere, nationally known Christian speakers and authors, teach biblical principles of marriage and share their personal stories of challenge and victory in their DVD “The Story of Marriage.” This two-day workshop includes viewing a section of the DVD, followed by small group discussions and related activities. These times of reflection and repentance have led to realignment and reuniting for many couples who have attended.

    Friday, June 28 | 7:00pm - 9:00pm
    Saturday, June 29 | 9:00am - 12:30pm
    Corporate Office (1st floor)

    $20.00 per single registrant
    $30.00 per Engaged/Married couple
    $20.00 per person for walk-in’s

    Food will be provided on both days | Walk–in’s accepted based on availability

    Register by Tuesday, June 25 (Limited to first 30 guests)

    Childcare available | $16.00 per child
    Walk-in childcare not accepted | Snack will be provided for both days

    Childcare registration deadline - Friday, June 21

 
  • Discipleship Track – This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

 

THURSDAY CYCLE:

JULY 11 - AUGUST 1
Main Campus - Worship Hall
(7:00pm - 9:00pm with Live Teaching & Food)

 

Childcare fees for children in 6th grade and under for all four weeks:

$20 for one child | $8 for each additional child
No refunds will be given if you are no longer able to attend.

Childcare registration deadline for JULY Discipleship Track - Monday, June 24

 
  • Freedom Weekend – This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us arise out of our sin and its effects, into a new life of freedom and victory.

Prerequisites:
- Must belong to a Grace Group and attend regularly
- Must have completed the first three chapters of One 2 One Book with a leader OR attended all steps of the Growth Track

 

MEN'S

FRIDAY, JUNE 21
Corporate Office - Mauka Room
(7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- AND -
SATURDAY, JUNE 22
Corporate Office - Mauka Room
(9:30am - 2:00pm)

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WOMEN'S

FRIDAY, JULY 12

Corporate Office - Mauka Room
(7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- AND -
SATURDAY, JULY 13

Corporate Office - Mauka Room
(9:00am - 2:30pm)

 

“You Gotta Develop Relationships!”

“You Gotta Develop Relationships!”

University of Alabama head football coach Nick Saban recently spoke about his leadership philosophy at the American Football Coaches Association’s 2019 convention in San Antonio, Texas. He stressed that good coaches have real, meaningful relationships with the members of their team. The truth is that Saban’s historic on-the-field success has come in part due to how he treats his players off-the-field. He motivated coaches across the nation to do the same, saying that if you treat players right, good things will follow.

 

“There are three guys that played for me at Michigan State way back when, standing back here waiting to see me. And I’m happy to see them, and I’m concerned about them,” he told the convention attendees. “Because they weren’t my guys for three years, four years or five years. They’re my guys forever. And that’s the way we should all feel about what we do.”

 

Saban added that he believes coaches have “a responsibility and an obligation to help” their players. He said, “They need us. I mean, how many guys do you coach that have two parents at home? How many guys do you coach that don’t have any parents at home? That’s us. That’s who we are. That’s what we need to take responsibility for and be there.”

 

“And there’s really only one way you can do it: Develop relationships with these people. You gotta develop relationships,” Saban continued. “How much time do you spend developing relationships with your players?”

Saban then said that while he can and does give inspiring speeches to his team as a group in order to motivate them, it is individual conversations and relationship-building that has the most positive impact on-the-field and off of it.

 

“If I’m going to talk to a group of guys, they may or may not listen. I may make all the right points, but if you make it about them and you sit down and have that relationship with them, they’re going to respond to you. Because these players don’t do what you tell them just because you tell them to do it. They don’t do that anymore. I would do that when I played, alright. But they don’t do that anymore. You gotta have a relationship with them. They gotta trust you, they gotta respect you, and you gotta build that,” Saban explained.

 

Similarly, we need to build relationally with people in discipleship. Jesus invested three years of his life into the disciples, and they became the foundation for a global movement that is still making an impact today. A meaningful relationship doesn’t happen accidentally, it takes intentional effort and consistency. Let’s do our part and invest quality time in the people God has placed in our lives.

Discussion Questions:

·      What stood out to you from Nick Saban’s speech?

·      Who is God calling you to building relationally with in discipleship? What practical step will you take to make this happen consistently?
 

Prayer:

·      Pray specifically for the person God has placed on your heart to build with.

·      Pray that our members would make consistent time in the week to build relationships and make disciples.

 

Communications:

Discipleship Track – This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

 

WEDNESDAY CYCLE:

JULY 10 - JULY 31
Main Campus - Worship Hall
(7:00pm - 9:00pm)

THURSDAY CYCLE:

JULY 11 - AUGUST 1
Main Campus - Worship Hall
(7:00pm - 9:00pm)

 

Childcare fees for children in 6th grade and under for all four weeks:

$20 for one child | $8 for each additional child
No refunds will be given if you are no longer able to attend.

Childcare registration deadline for JULY Discipleship Track - Monday, June 24

 

• Freedom Weekend – This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us arise out of our sin and its effects, into a new life of freedom and victory.

Prerequisites:
- Must belong to a Grace Group and attend regularly
- Must have completed the first three chapters of One 2 One Book with a leader OR attended all steps of the Growth Track

 

MEN'S

FRIDAY, JUNE 21
Main Campus - ENLI 1
(7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- AND -
SATURDAY, JUNE 22
Main Campus - ENLI 1
(9:30am - 2:00pm)

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WOMEN'S

FRIDAY, JULY 12

Corporate Office - Mauka Room
(7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- AND -
SATURDAY, JULY 13

Corporate Office - Mauka Room
(9:00am - 2:30pm)

 

10 Marks of Effective Group Meetings

10 Marks of Effective Group Meetings

Small groups are the primary means for discipleship at Pearlside. The following 10 practices, when consistently applied in the context of small group, will create an environment that leads to fruitfulness and growth in discipleship.

 

1.    The leaders are PREPARED by reviewing and understanding the GG guide and preparing their responses to the questions. 

2.    There is a healthy relational ATMOSPHERE before the meeting starts and after it ends. New people are made to feel comfortable. 

3.    The group meeting starts and ends at a DESIGNATED time. (1-1.15 hrs max)

4.    The group SIZE is managed to ensure everyone is comfortable and participates.  

5.    The Grace Group Discussion Guide is used and the group leader keeps the group on TOPIC.

6.    The main thought and passages are clearly understood by everyone. Everyone ENGAGES in the discussion.  

7.    The TRIPOD sets the tone for transparency.

8.    Personal takeaways and APPLICATIONS are clear for each person.

9.    The group closes in prayer being SENSITIVE to the new people in the group.

10.  Discipleship of new people happens OUTSIDE of the group meetings using approved materials (PDL, O2O, PB, etc.)

 

Discussion Question:

  • Which of these best practices do you most need to apply to your leadership and why? 

Prayer:

  • Pray that our members would make consistent time in the week to be a disciple and to make disciples.

 

 

The Weekday Walk

The Weekday Walk

In Matthew 28, Jesus told his believers to “go and make disciples of all nations” - a commandment that remains the same today for every believer. We see in Acts 2 how the early church practically lived this out:

 

“They devoted themselves to the apostles’ teaching and to fellowship, to the breaking of bread and to prayer. Everyone was filled with awe at the many wonders and signs performed by the apostles. All the believers WERE TOGETHER and had everything in common. They sold property and possessions to give to anyone who had need. EVERY DAY they continued to MEET TOGETHER in the temple courts. They broke bread in their homes and ate TOGETHER with glad and sincere hearts, praising God and enjoying the favor of all the people. And the Lord added to their number DAILY those who were being saved.” (Acts 2:42-47 NIV)

 

Verse 47 says the disciples were “enjoying the favor of all the people” and that “the Lord added to their number daily those who were being saved.” Why? Simply because of their genuine and authentic love for God, one another, and the lost. Arguably the most important detail from this passage - this love was displayed as they met TOGETHER DAILY. The early church made consistent time throughout the week to walk, connect, impart, and invest in discipleship. God honored their obedience and grew His church.

 

Every Christ-follower is called to make disciples. As group leaders, we must remind ourselves and our group members that evangelism and discipleship is a weekday walk. Often times, we rely solely on an invitation to a weekend service as the extent of our discipleship. Although important, by itself it is insufficient and impersonal. Discipleship is an ongoing personal journey as we walk with someone to be more like Christ. Therefore, like the early church, we must make consistent time in the week to spend with an unsaved person we are reaching and/or a new believer we are discipling.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • Do you and the members in your group consistently make time in the week to walk with someone in the process of discipleship or do you rely solely on the weekend services to do that? Why or why not?

  • What can you do to keep yourself and your group members accountable to walk with someone during the week to help them grow in their walk with God?

 

Application:

  • The next time you meet with your group, discuss with them who they are going to reach and disciple. Have each member discuss with one another their game plan to make consistent weekly time with this person.

 

Prayer:

  • Pray that our members would make consistent time in the week to make disciples.

  • Pray that first-time guests or visitors would radically encounter the presence of God and get connected to someone for discipleship.

 

 

Leading Like A Shepherd

Leading Like A Shepherd

“To the elders among you, I appeal as a fellow elder and a witness of Christ’s sufferings who also will share in the glory to be revealed: Be shepherds of God’s flock that is under your care, watching over them—not because you must, but because you are willing, as God wants you to be; not pursuing dishonest gain, but eager to serve; not lording it over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock. And when the Chief Shepherd appears, you will receive the crown of glory that will never fade away.” (1 Peter 5:1-4 NIV)

 

As Christian leaders, we desire to lead people to where God wants them to be which is noble and right, but we must remember that we are to do it Jesus’ way. The Apostle Peter here reminds us that Jesus’ way is to lead like a shepherd of God’s flock. In his book, Lead Like a Shepherd, Dr. Larry Osborne outlines three leadership principles gleaned from the way shepherds lead sheep in contrast to the way that cowboys lead their cattle.

 

1.     Shepherds lead by relationship.

Shepherds care for their sheep so well that the sheep learn to trust in the shepherd’s voice. This trust enables the shepherd to lead the flock from the front guiding the sheep by the sound of his voice and his example.

In contrast, cowboys lead from the back of the herd using dogs who “nip at the heels” of the animals to keep them moving at the cowboy’s desired pace. They also lead with a whip and a gun, controlling the flock by fear and intimidation.

Like shepherds, leaders must care for and build relationally with those they lead. People willingly follow those whom they know care for them and lead from the front which is leading by example.

 

2.     Shepherds lead at a measured pace.

Shepherds move their flocks at the “speed of the sheep.” They ensure that all of their sheep get to their destination at a pace that is best for the sheep, not the shepherd. They don’t become angry with stragglers because they understand that every individual has a different pace.

Shepherd-like spiritual leaders take their cues from Jesus. They’re filled with compassion and concern for the weak and burdened. They offer help, rest, and a lighter load; not a tongue-lashing or a spiritual beatdown[1]

[1] Lead Like a Shepherd, by Dr. Larry Osborne. P. 136.

In contrast, cowboys drive their herds as fast as possible, and get frustrated with stragglers because they need to get the herd to market. If an animal falls behind and is unable to be coerced to keep up with the rest, they are often left behind or shot as to not impede the speed of the herd because for them, “time is money.”

Like shepherds, leaders need to meet people where they are and graciously lead them to where God wants them to be. Leaders don’t acquiesce and appease the sheep, letting them stay as they are, but lead them to God’s destination at a reasonable pace.

 

3.     Shepherds know and pursue their sheep.

Shepherds know each of their sheep and know when one is missing. If one gets lost or wanders off, the shepherd will leave the flock in a pen to pursue the lost sheep. Shepherds care for each of their sheep and do everything in their power to get them to their destination.

If one of a cowboy’s herd gets lost or falls behind, it is usually left behind. It is financial loss for the cowboy for sure, but not as big of a loss as if the rest of the herd does not make it to market in time.

Like shepherds, leaders need to know those they lead individually and take the time to lead individuals not just groups. This involves significant time; therefore, leaders need to shepherd through other leaders multiplying their effectiveness.

 

Discussion Questions:

·      From the above leadership principles outlined, which one stands out to you the most and why?

·      When have you led more like a cowboy than a shepherd? What can you do to lead more like a shepherd than a cowboy?

 

Prayer:

·      Pray for wisdom and understanding to lead like a shepherd.

·      Pray for the current people in our groups that we lead.



Slow Down For Loving Union

Slow Down For Loving Union

In Matthew 28, Jesus calls every believer to “go and make disciples of all nations.” And as we begin a new year, we must remember God’s amazing call of discipleship for Pearlside through planting churches locally, nationally, and globally, while also impacting different areas of society with the gospel such as government, military, education and the next generation. As leaders, we all know that it starts with discipleship, which does take time, energy and effort while balancing other aspects of our life.

In the book “Emotionally Healthy Leader,” author Peter Scazerro acknowledges the importance of upholding Jesus’ call to make disciples, but warns leaders that it is dangerous to do all the tasks and responsibilities of ministry without having a “Loving Union” with Jesus.

Scazerro defines a Loving Union with Jesus as allowing the will of God to have full access to every area of our lives, including every aspect of our leadership - from difficult conversations and decision-making to managing our emotional triggers,” and that, Cultivating this kind of relationship with God can’t be hurried or rushed. We must slow down and build into our lives a structure and rhythm that makes this kind of loving surrender routinely possible.” (p. 120)

Not slowing down to develop this Loving Union with Jesus will eventually have a negative impact on those we lead and disciple because we are not leading from our relationship with Jesus, but rather from our own flawed-abilities.

Scazerro states, “We can serve Christ in our own energy and wisdom. We can expand ministry or a business without thinking much of Jesus or relying on him in the process. We can boldly preach truths we don’t live. And if our efforts prove successful, few people will notice or take issue with the gaps between who we are and what we do.” (p. 117)

One practical way to develop a Loving Union with Jesus is to develop a rhythm throughout the day and week in order to meet with Jesus personally to pray, reflect, and listen to His voice on how to best lead and disciple those you cover, while also allowing Him to refresh, refuel and renew your spirit.

This is something we learn from Jesus. He would leave the masses He’d minister to, go to the mountains to pray and be with God in the mountains alone. This will require setting aside ministry and the busyness of life in order to have a Loving Union with Jesus for a duration of time (i.e 20-30 minutes).

We are believing 2019 - the 25th year of Pearlside’s existence - to be a banner year of establishing believers, equipping disciples, and empowering leaders that sets us into the next 25 years and beyond. In order to do so we are hoping every leader of our church will lead and disciple from a Loving Union with Jesus.

Discussion Question & Active Application:

·      Do you have a Loving Union with Jesus in your personal ministry (Leadership Group, Grace Group, discipleship, evangelism, etc.)? Share with one another why you think you have a hard time or an easy time having a Loving Union with Jesus in ministry.

·      How can you practically develop a rhythm throughout the day and week listed above to develop a Loving Union with Jesus in your personal walk with God and the Grace Group leaders and members you oversee.
 

Prayer:

·      Pray for one another to commit to having a Loving Union with Jesus in their personal life and in their ministry.

·      Pray by name those you are personally reaching out to.

·      Pray that each member of Pearlside would commit to walking the one person God has placed on their heart through the discipleship process.

 

Communications:

·      Sunday service times at our Main Campus are now 7:30am, 9:00am, 11:00am, 6:00pm, and 7:30pm.

·      Growth Track cycles begin the first Sunday of each month. Please encourage your leaders to walk in those who recently committed their life to Christ or are new in their faith to attend our Growth Track. Please see Pearlside.org or our Pearlside App for more information.

 


 

The Need For Feedback

The Need For Feedback

“In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, ‘She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.’ Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, ‘I am pregnant.’”
(2 Samuel 11:1-5 NIV)

 

David sent away all of the people who he would listen to. He had no one around who was able or willing to tell him the truth. He had only “yes-men” around him. If we are going to be who God called us to be and fulfill His vision, we need to ensure that we have people who are willing and able to tell us the truth and people who we will listen to. David had people around him, but no one who could tell him the truth, and no one he’d listen to. In order to become who God has called us to be, we need to continually be growing in our own leadership and character. Therefore, we need to position ourselves to receive input and feedback from those around us.

 

1. Leaders must be able to receive feedback and correction from various sources:

  • Leaders and mentors.

“Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.” (Hebrews 13:17 NIV)

“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14 NIV)

 We need leaders we can receive from who will speak into our lives and challenge us. We need to submit to their leadership. Submission is only submission when we don’t agree and God will put us in situations where our wills are crossed to teach us to submit. We need to seek out godly leaders and mentors to speak into our lives.

  • Those closest to us. (Galatians 2:11-14 NIV)

People who see us on a consistent basis (our spouses, our closest friends, and coworkers) know us best and can give us the most accurate feedback on our character and spiritual health. We typically perform for those above us and our real selves come out to those closest to us. We need to give them permission to give us feedback and correction.

  • Those we lead.

Do we hear feedback from those we lead? If not, we may have unintentionally created a culture where people don’t feel safe to push feedback up to us. When we don’t receive feedback, we assume no news is good news. In reality, no news over a period of time is more likely a signal of bad news. To be deceived is to be unable to see, and we need feedback from those who see our blind spots.

 

2. Leaders must be able to give feedback and correction to others in constructive ways.

  • To those above us. (Lead Up)

  • To coworkers and those close to us. (Lead Across)

  • To those we lead. (Lead Down)

 

3. We must raise up other leaders who can receive and give feedback and correction.

We need to create a culture where failure isn’t fatal and feedback and correction is consistent and redemptive.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • When was the last time you received feedback from your leaders, mentors, coworkers or those closest to you and those you lead? What happened and how did you grow from it?

  • Self-Assessment. How well do we receive feedback from others? Do you dismiss it? Do you consider and receive it? Who do we have closest to us who can give us real feedback?

 

Prayer:

  • Pray for humility to receive feedback from others.

  • Pray for courage to give loving feedback to others.

 

Communications:

  • Adopt an Ohana: We will not be receiving monetary donations this year. However, we are looking for groups and individuals to serve at the “Fun Fest” happening November 24, 10:00am to 1:00pm, at the Waipahu United Church of Christ. If you’re interested in serving, visit the Adopt an Ohana table after any of our weekend services for more information.

  • Growth Track: Due to the busyness of the holiday season, we will not be having Growth Track in December. The new cycle will begin in January of 2019.


 

Uncovering Servant Treasure

Uncovering Servant Treasure

“…But whoever would be great among you must be your servant…”
(Matthew 20:26 ESV)

Serving is part of growing as disciples.

“But as the believers rapidly multiplied, there were rumblings of discontent. The Greek-speaking believers complained about the Hebrew-speaking believers, saying that their widows were being discriminated against in the daily distribution of food. So the Twelve called a meeting of all the believers. They said, ‘We apostles should spend our time teaching the word of God, not running a food program. And so, brothers, select seven men who are well respected and are full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will give them this responsibility. Then we apostles can spend our time in prayer and teaching the word.’ Everyone liked this idea, and they chose the following: Stephen (a man full of faith and the Holy Spirit), Philip, Procorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicolas of Antioch (an earlier convert to the Jewish faith). These seven were presented to the apostles, who prayed for them as they laid their hands on them.” (Acts 6:1-6 NLT)

 

  • In most churches, 20% of the people do 80% of the serving. A healthy church is where everyone is serving in some capacity.

  • Serving moves people from attenders to disciples. Having responsibility allows people to take ownership in the church.

  • Serving helps us to grow in God as we practically focus on the meeting the needs of others. We learn serving in God’s house so that we can do it outside on a regular basis.

 

We must find them and get them activated, because they won’t find us.

  • Jesus went to prospective disciples and asked them to follow Him.

  • The gospels say He called to Himself those who were called.

  • We cannot wait for them to come to us through a mass appeal.

  • Standing behind a recruitment or enlistment table is too passive and usually ineffective.

 

First, pray that God move upon their hearts.

“Then he said to his disciples, ‘The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.’” (Matthew 9:37-38 ESV) 

“You do not have, because you do not ask.” (James 4:4 ESV)

 

  • Pray for God to bring prospects to your mind of those who aren’t yet serving.

  • Focus on friendships and trusted relationships. Select one or two people.

  • People value helping a person over filling a need, so give them the “why” before the “what.” We serve in response to God’s love and to help others experience that love through us.

  • Pray specifically for them this week.

 

Then, ask those you prayed for in person if they would be willing to serve.

  • Make a warm personal approach. 

  • Connect face to face, not by email or text, because the latter creates too much impersonal distance. 

  • Be specific about why we desire their help, and what will be expected of them.

  • Spell out clearly the time commitment, making it very short term and doable to start. (Begin with once a month)

  • Allow for divine inspiration, tension and conviction: “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV)

  • Our part is to ask warmly, and their part is to answer honestly. Don’t be pushy, but don’t deprive them of wrestling with healthy conviction. 

 

Start with appetizer taste tests.

  • The idea is first to get others activated without worrying about fitting them for their best position.

  • The gifts test “fit” will come later. Once people start to serve, they will usually continue to serve.

  • When people start serving anywhere, serving momentum will manifest everywhere, especially if they serve with people they click with and care about. Community synergy becomes an intrinsic reward.

  • When Pearlside was about 400-500, we had about 70% of Sunday goers serving because of a culture of personal asking. 

Discussion Questions:

  • Why is serving important to our spiritual growth?

  • Do the people in your groups understand the heart behind serving?

  • Who within your groups is currently not serving at all, and how can you get them activated?

Communications:

  • Seek Week – October 23-25

    Join us for corporate prayer and worship on October 23-25 from 6:30pm - 7:30pm at our Main Campus Worship Center. We believe in the power of prayer and fasting. As a church, we will embark on three days of dynamic intercession where we pause to seek God as He leads us forward on His mission.


  • Kaneohe Campus Permanent Relocation – November 4

Starting on November 4, our Kaneohe site will be permanently moving to Bay View Golf Course as its new location. This move is strategic, and puts us in the heart of Kaneohe and its surrounding community. Service times will be 8:00am and 9:30am, so please help us communicate the upcoming change.


  • Discipleship Track

    Our Discipleship Track is designed to lead people to a healthy relationship with God and others. Over the course of four weeks, you will gain a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church, and for influence in the world. We encourage everyone to grow through our Discipleship Classes.

WEDNESDAY

November 7 - December 5
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS

November 8 - December 6
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Multiply Like A Leader

How to Multiply Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 5: How to Multiply Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • Leadership development doesn’t happen organically; it happens strategically and intentionally.

  • If someone is a faithful disciple, they have the potential to become a leader, but that potential still needs to be developed.

  • Intentional leadership development is not unspiritual. It’s actually extremely spiritual, biblical, and essential.

Discussion Questions:

  • Which of the four leadership multipliers (identification, instruction, impartation, internship) do you think would be easiest to put into practice? Why?

  • Which one do you find most challenging? What can you do to address this challenge?

  • Have you viewed leadership development as something strategic or intentional? Why or why not?

Communications:

  • Growth Track: We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps over four weeks that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sundays 9:45am

    • Kapolei: Sundays 9:30am

Text "NEXT" to (808) 427-0034 for more information.


  • Financial Peace University: Dave Ramsey, nationally known Christian author and radio personality, teaches biblical principles and practices on stewarding the finances God has entrusted to us. This 9-week video course with weekly small group discussions and workshops have helped people “tell their dollar where to go” to get out of debt, save money, and plan for the future by following Dave’s “baby steps.”

    Every Sunday, September 23 - November 18  | 4:00pm - 5:30pm
    Location: Main Campus - ENLI 1
    (98-771 Oihana Place, Aiea, HI 96701)

    Cost: $99.00 Adult/Engaged/Married Couple
    $49.00 Full-time College Student
    FREE PREVIEW on Sunday, September 23

Register by Wednesday, September 19
*Limited to first 30 guest*


  • Freedom Weekend: This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us experience freedom from sin and walk out a new life of victory.

MEN'S

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 5
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 6
(9:30am - 2:00pm) 

Main Campus (ENLI 1)

WOMEN'S

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 28
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 29
(9:00am - 2:30pm) 

Main Campus (MPR 1)


 

How to Grow Like A Leader

How to Grow Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 4: How to Grow Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others while continuing to grow yourself.

  • Most growing organizations need more leaders immediately, but if our goal is strong and healthy leaders, we must slow down the process and resist the temptation to fast track our leadership training.

  • Leaders, no matter where they are on the leadership journey, must grow in their understanding of calling and in their ability to extend compassion to hurting people. Responding to God’s calling and having a heart of compassion toward people forces leaders to grow and upgrade their ability to communicate God’s message.

  • Leadership gifts are deposited in an instant. Godly character is developed over a lifetime. 

  • When a person has godly character, accomplishments are inevitable and do not even need to be listed.

Discussion Questions:

  • What has God called you to do? Where has God called you to serve? Who has God called you to walk with?

  • How do you usually respond to trials and suffering? How should you respond to trials and suffering?

  • What is the most difficult trial and testing of your faith you have experienced?

Communications:

  • Growth Track: We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps over four weeks that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sundays 9:45am

    • Kapolei: Sundays 9:30am

Text "NEXT" to (808) 427-0034 for more information.


  • Marriage Huddle: Like a new car, a marriage traveling together upon the road of life will eventually encounter bumps or potholes that may bring misalignment or friction into the marriage relationship. In the Marriage Huddle, John and Lisa Bevere, nationally known Christian speakers and authors, teach biblical principles of marriage and share their personal stories of challenge and victory in their DVD “The Story of Marriage.” This one day workshop includes viewing a section of the DVD, followed by small group discussions and related activities. These times of reflection and repentance have led to realignment and reuniting for many couples who have attended.

    Saturday, August 18  | 9:00am - 12:30pm
    Location: Main Campus
    (98-771 Oihana Place, Aiea, HI 96701)

    Cost: $5.00 per person | $7.00 for walk-ins
    (Breakfast included | Walk-in’s $12.00 per person)
    Register by Wednesday, August 15
    *Limited to first 50 guest*

    Child Care available (Nursery - Grade 6)
    Cost: $5.00 per child
    (Breakfast included | No childcare walk-ins)
    Register childcare by Tuesday, August 14


  • Discipleship Track: This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

WEDNESDAYS
September 5 - September 26
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS
September 6 - September 27
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Listen Like A Leader

How to Listen Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 3: How to Listen Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • If you want to lead, you need to learn how to listen.

  • We all need mentors and leaders who love us enough to speak the truth in love, and we need to make sure we listen when they speak.

  • All leaders need a group of friends who know and love them enough to speak the truth without worrying about offense.

  • Sometimes abandoning the voice of our followers is a bad idea, especially when those followers have more experience than we do.

  • When the leader listens, the whole team wins. As soon as we learn to listen like a leader, we will immediately start growing like a leader, which will help us rise to the multiplication challenge. 

Discussion Questions:

  • How do you respond when your leaders correct you? How do you respond when your peers/friends correct you? How do you respond to your critics?

  • Have you given anyone permission to speak into your life? Who? If not, make a list of people you will ask to do so.

  • What are the potential benefits and pitfalls of listening to your followers?

  • Do you create the kind of culture where your followers can put their ideas on the table? Do you seriously listen to them?

Communications:

  • Growth Track: We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm and 7:45pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sunday 9:45am

Text "NEXT" to (808) 427-0034 for more information.


  • Parenting Seminar: Whether you’re frustrated with the battles you’ve been facing or want to be proactive as a parent, learn to build the heart and character of your child by attending this informational seminar. Exploration of key values and principles will be covered. Appropriate for parents with children ages 0-18. Live speaker: Edwina Reyes, Marriage and Family Therapist. Register today!

    Saturday, July 21  | 9:00am - 12:00pm
    Location: Main Campus
    (98-771 Oihana Place, Aiea, HI 96701)

    Cost: $10.00 per person
    (Breakfast included | Walk-in’s $12.00 per person)
    Register by Wednesday, July 18

    Child Care available (Nursery - Grade 6)
    Cost: $5.00 per child
    (Breakfast included | No childcare walk-ins)
    Register childcare by Sunday, July 15


  • Discipleship Track: This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

WEDNESDAYS
July 11 - August 1
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS
July 12 - August 2
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Act Like A Leader

How to Act Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 2: How to Act Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • Growing organizations rarely need more people with leadership titles, but they always need more people who act like leaders, with or without a title.

  • If you want more leaders, you need to find more people who act like leaders.

  • Leadership is supposed to be plural. If you are called to lead, then you are called to build a team so you can lead together.

  • If you want to act like a leader, first build your team, then lead your team. Everyone on the team can and should have a voice, but all voices are not equal in wisdom and authority. At the end of the day, teams still need to be led.

  • Once we get the relationship right, discipleship and leadership will naturally follow. Strong and healthy relationships produce strong and healthy leaders because leadership is relationships.

Discussion Questions:

  • What are the benefits and dangers of someone leading without a title or position?

  • Do you tend to trust or micromanage those you lead? What are the potential pitfalls of both?

  • What are ways you can bring energy to your team?

  • Do you look for already-developed leaders around you, or do you look for individuals with potential to develop into great leaders? Why?

Communications:

  • New Growth Track Times: We are rolling out new times for our Growth Track. We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm and 7:45pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sunday 9:45am

    • Kaneohe: Sunday 6:00pm


  • Camp Impact: If you are in middle or high school, our annual Youth Camp will be held at Camp Pu’u Kahea in Waianae on July 15-17, 2018. Cost is $125 until June 22, and will be $150 thereafter. Registration and donations are received at any of our weekend services. The camp will be limited to the first 150 students. Follow @gbcradical on Instagram for most recent updates.


  • Financial Peace University: Dave Ramsey, nationally known Christian author and radio personality, teaches biblical principles and practices on stewarding the finances God has entrusted to us. This 9-week DVD course with weekly small group discussions and workshops have helped people “tell their dollar where to go” to get out of debt, save money, and plan for the future by following Dave’s “baby steps.”

Every Monday, June 25 - August 20 | 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Main Campus – ENLI 2
Cost
$99.00 Adult/Engaged/Married Couple
$49.00 Full-time College Student
FREE PREVIEW night on Monday, June 25
Register by Wednesday, June 20 
*Limited to first 30 guests*


  • Freedom Weekend: This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us experience freedom from sin and walk out a new life of victory.

MEN'S

FRIDAY, JUNE 22
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, JUNE 23
(9:30am - 2:00pm) 

Main Campus (ENLI 1)

WOMEN'S

FRIDAY, JULY 13
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, JULY 14
(9:30am - 2:30pm) 

Main Campus (MPR 1)


  • Discipleship Track: This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

WEDNESDAYS
July 11 - August 1
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS
July 12 - August 2
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Think Like a Leader

How to Think Like a Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 1: How to Think Like a Leader

Key Points:

  • Leadership is serving. Therefore, to think like a leader means to think like a servant.

  • The best leaders lead with the heart of a servant. That’s how Jesus led and that’s how He expects us to lead.

  • When we reduce leadership to position, glory, and especially authority, we usually end up with a lot of indignant and angry people who argue and fight for their place in the pecking order.

  • Serving and saving sinful humanity was an end in itself—not a means to leadership and greatness. For Jesus, leading and influencing was a means to serve.

Discussion Questions:

  • Do you see serving as a means to leadership, or do you see leadership as a means to serving? What is the difference? Why does it matter?

  • Describe a leader you work with who exemplifies servant leadership.

  • Why do you want to be a leader? What motivates your desire to lead others?

Communications:

  • New Growth Track Times: We are rolling out new times for our Growth Track. We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    o   Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm, and 7:45pm

    o   Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    o   Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

  • Freedom Weekend: This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us experience freedom from sin and walk out a new life of victory. Our men’s weekend is on June 22-23. Our women’s weekend is on July 13-14.

 

Leading A Healthy Discussion

Leading A Healthy Discussion

April 2018


Part of our roles as small group leaders is to facilitate healthy discussions that lead to growth. Quality conversations will help a person’s spiritual and emotional health.  When leading group, our main goal is to create discussion that allows to people process their lives through the lens of God’s Word. Here are a few practices and principles that can help us lead healthy discussions.
 

1.     Preparation—Failing to plan is planning to fail.

The key to facilitating healthy discussions is being prepared. This means setting time to look over the weekly guide beforehand. Our discussion guides are sermon-based material from the previous weekend’s message. We can better prepare by taking notes during the sermon, and/or even watching/listening to it again as a refresher. (You may also want to encourage the group to do the same.)

Tips:

  • Look over the guide and already have in mind what you plan to share with the group. Remember, your transparency sets the tone for the depth in conversation.

  • Have an idea where you want the discussion to go. Talk it over with your apprentice and assistant. Brainstorm additional open-ended questions you could ask for further discussion.

  • Be mindful of time, especially for seekers. Take a few minutes to warm up and start (5-8 minutes) and spend majority of the time on the sermon discussion. Group could last anywhere from 60-75 minutes.

 

2.     Participation—Facilitate, don’t lecture.

In many cases, the person leading the group tends to do most of the talking. When this happens, group can seem like it is a lecture. A leader gets the conversation started and facilitates discussion by getting everyone to participate and share. This means asking good follow up questions and having others speak into specific topics. A leader is also aware of when the conversation is going off topic, and quickly brings it back into focus. Here are some quick transition statements when the discussion has gone off topic:

  • “It’s seems like we’re getting off topic. Let’s get back to the discussion guide.”

  • “Thanks for sharing. We can talk more in depth about that after group. In the meantime, does anyone else want to share?”

  • “I’d love to hear more about that when we’re done, but I want to make sure that we give time for others to share on this topic right now.”

While this may take some courage at first, it can become instinctive over time. Group members will grow in confidence knowing that discussions will be focused and that no person or issue can dominate and completely take over. 

Tips:

  • Speak the truth in love. Wisely use the scriptures from the guide and other verses to address issues and opinions that arise. Let the Bible speak for itself.

  • Consider clustering if more than 6 people. The smaller setting gives everyone a chance to share in a timely manner.

  • Be aware of body language and eye contact of members. Everyone should be focused on the person sharing. If someone isn’t paying attention, quickly involve them in the conversation.

  • Remove as many distractions as possible for focused conversations. (Phones, text messages, etc. can be taken after group unless an emergency.)

  • Value group members’ insights. You can affirm what someone has shared by saying “thanks for sharing that”, “that’s really good”, or “thank you for being honest.”

  • Make sure each person has an action step they will take after the discussion. Follow up with them for accountability.

 

3.     Prayer—The power for change.

Lasting change doesn’t come by only processing, but through prayer. Prayer invites the power of God to move in a person’s life. Make sure to open the meeting in prayer and have time to close by praying for specific points and needs of members. There are general points included in the discussion guide that give direction for prayer.

Tips:

  • Be mindful of the environment you’re in. In public places, pray with your eyes open.

  • Mix up prayer. One person can pray for the group, each person can pray for a point, or you can have people pair up and pray for each other.

  • Be sensitive to new people. Protect them from feeling like they have to pray out loud.

  • Always include praying for a lost person that God has placed on our heart.

Remember, the end goal of group discussion is life change, not perfect discussions or getting through all the material. Be open to the Holy Spirit during each group meeting and follow where He leads. God is the one who does the work in our hearts. As leaders, we are simply creating an environment for discipleship and change to occur.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • What stood out to you from the teaching?

  • What are some things that you have done in group that helped with discussion?

  • What adjustments do you need to make to facilitate better discussions?

  • What are some current issues within group that you’ve had difficulty with?

  • Who are you empowering to facilitate discussions in the group?

 


 

Communications:

  • Continue to pray for and follow-up with individuals that you brought to our weekend services. Let’s make sure we are consistently connecting and walking them towards discipleship.

  • Growth Track – Starting this month, Growth Track will be on Saturdays 6:00pm, Sunday 9:15am and 6:00pm at Main Campus, and Sunday 9:45am at Kaneohe. The Cityside cycle will resume in May.

  • Discipleship Track – Our next cycle start on Wednesday, May 2 and Thursday, May 3. Both classes will be held at Main Campus (ENLI 1) from 7:00pm-9:00pm.

 

Leading From A Healthy Soul

Leading From A Healthy Soul

Spring Discipleship Summit 2018


The effects of an unhealthy soul are most obvious in our behaviors.

Behavior: Our behaviors are coping mechanisms that we have learned that are often unconscious and harmful.

Emotions: Are below the surface, less obvious but fuel our behaviors.

  • Instead of “why,” start with “what.”

  • “What was I feeling before I acted?”

  • Sometimes the emotion is triggered by a present event, sometimes it is triggered by a past event.

Belief: Lies or truth fuel our emotions that fuel our behaviors.

  • “What lie am I believing about myself when I felt that way?”

 

What do we do?

  1. Identify the lie that we believe and replace it with the Gospel truth.

a. Recognize the lies we believe.

“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth…” (John 16:13)

b. Repent for believing the lie.

“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” (Proverbs 28:13)

 c. Receive and believe God’s truth.

“and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)

 d. Renew your mind daily with God’s truth.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” (Romans 12:2)

2. Be honest with your behaviors and emotions.

3. Tell your story: be “known” to someone who will love and accept you just as you are.

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed” (James 5:16)

 

What do we do for others?

1. Create a safe place for people to tell their stories.

2. Ask people what they are feeling and what lies they are believing.

3. Help them to replace the lies that they believe with God’s truth.

 

Summit Takeaways:

  • A healthy soul comes as we are proactive in processing with others.

  • Cultivate safe environments of trust for transparency in group.

  • The health in our soul improves as we help others.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • What stood out to you from the teaching?

  • How do you think you can apply this to your leadership?

  • What are some of the things that create a safe environment for people to share?

  • Who can you help lead to a place of health in their soul?

Fill Up and Follow Up

Fill Up and Follow Up

Main Thought:

As we enter into a new year, we want to make sure we start it right with God first. Here are two practical ways for us to do this:

 

1.     Fill Up.

Spiritually, we want to make sure that our tank is full. We need to set a time to fill up and replenish our soul. We primarily do this through a focused time of prayer, word, and reflection.

 

2.     Follow Up.

Relationally, we want to follow up with people. Since the end of the year is full of distractions, January is when everyone’s schedule is open for connection. We need to leverage this window by following up and following through with those we were reaching and inviting during the Christmas season.

 

How we begin the year determines how the year will go. We want to come close to God and stay close with others. As we are filled up, we will have the grace to follow up with those we are believing God for. Let’s start 2018 with the right heart and mindset together.

 

Discussion Questions:

·  What will you do to fill up spiritually? What are you believing God for in 2018?

·  Who do you need to follow up with? What will you do to consistently connect with them?

 


Upcoming Events:

  • Prayer and Fasting

We will begin the new year with prayer and fasting. Starting on January 10, we will commit each Wednesday to a complete fast and end it with prayer at our Main Campus (Worship Center) from 6:30pm - 7:30pm. We are encouraging everyone to choose one day a week to fast, and each Grace Group to attend one of the four prayer pockets for the month (Jan. 10, 17, 24, & 31). We also have a 24-day devotional to help you personally connect with God. Pick-up one at our Connection Center or download it online at pearlside.org/devotional.

  • Discipleship Summit

Our Spring Discipleship Summit will take place in February. The theme will be “Leading from a Healthy Soul.” We will have two pockets to choose from:

o   Monday, February 5, 2018 from 7:00pm – 9:30pm

o   Saturday, February 10, 2018 from 9:00am – 11:30am

You can register through the Pearlside App or Pearlside.org/events.

Leveraging The Holidays For Discipleship

Leveraging The Holidays For Discipleship

“And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:25 NLT)

We want to leverage the holidays for discipleship, not lose discipleship during the holidays.
 

Three ways we can leverage the holidays for discipleship:

1. Plan ahead.

  • When we fail to plan, we plan to fail.

  • Look at upcoming dates and plan around them. (Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve, etc.)

  • Plan outreaches, dinners, and parties in advance. So you can let the group and those you are reaching out to know ahead of time for scheduling purposes.

  • Consider doing things with other Grace Groups so you can create community with others in the church.

 

2. Leverage what you already have to do.

  • Include evangelism and discipleship into the things you are already doing.

  • Not adding more, but being purposeful and inclusive with what you have to do.

 

3. Fight to keep meeting.

  • Do your best to meet consistently. Cancelling group is the LAST resort.

  • Think outside the box. Be willing to change the day and time so that MOST can make it.

  • Consider having a “recapture”, another pocket to get those who couldn’t make group. Allow your apprentice to lead group on a different day.

 

Upcoming Holidays:

Saturday, November 11 – Veterans Day

Thursday, November 23 – Thanksgiving Day

Friday, December 22 to Sunday, December 24 – Christmas Weekend Services

Monday, December 25 – Christmas Day

Sunday, December 31 – New Year’s Eve

 

Discipleship Questions:

  • Look at a calendar. What plans does your Grace Group have to leverage discipleship during the upcoming holidays? What are some ideas that you can do as a Grace Group?

  • Reflect and share experiences of successful activities done as a grace group.

  • What can you do personally to leverage the holidays for evangelism?

 

Life On Life Discipleship

Life On Life Discipleship

Fall Discipleship Summit 2017

 

Discipleship is relationship, and this happens as we do “life on life” with the people we are reaching out to and raising up in leadership. In our groups, we need to have a blend of believers, pre-believers, and seekers in order to maintain health. Groups tend to remain stuck if it’s consistently the same people. As leaders, we need to be a model to our groups of what we want them to live out.

 

Discussion Questions on Discipleship:

Personal:

  • Who is one person you are currently reaching out to?

  • What are you doing consistently within your week to reach out to them?

Grace Group:

  • What’s the mix of individuals in your group? Do you have a blend of believers, pre-believers, and seekers?

  • How is the group growing in discipleship?

  • What are you doing to encourage your group to reach out to others?

 

As we do “life on life,” our groups will begin to grow. That means we need to develop leaders to sustain the growth. Raising leaders takes F.A.I.T.H. We need to find people who are Faithful, Available, Involved, Teachable, and Hungry.

Discussion Questions on Leadership:

  • Who is one person you are raising up into leadership?

  • Which of the F.A.I.T.H. qualities do they possess? What do they need to develop?

  • How are you giving this person opportunities to grow in their leadership?

Prayer Points:

  • For the Holy Spirit to move on the names you wrote on your 5x5 Prayer Card. Pray for their hearts to be softened and for them to receive Christ.

  • For new leaders to rise up and begin new Grace Groups that are focused on reaching out to new individuals, groups, and areas of influence.

 


Important Communications:

Revamped Discipleship Process

  • Growth Track: Designed to establish seekers and guests to become believers in their faith. This class is a series of four steps that happens every Sunday, that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover your purpose and serve others. A person can begin at any step.

  • Discipleship Track: Designed for believers to become equipped disciples. This class is a series of four weeks that have separate cycles on Wednesday and Thursday every other month. It is highly encouraged for Grace Groups to take this track together, and to attend each class consecutively from the beginning.

  • How to Register: Those who want to take either track can do so by registering at Pearlside.org or our Pearlside App. For the Growth Track, you can also TEXT NEXT to (808) 427-0034 or walk in.