The Need For Feedback

The Need For Feedback

“In the spring, at the time when kings go off to war, David sent Joab out with the king’s men and the whole Israelite army. They destroyed the Ammonites and besieged Rabbah. But David remained in Jerusalem. One evening David got up from his bed and walked around on the roof of the palace. From the roof he saw a woman bathing. The woman was very beautiful, and David sent someone to find out about her. The man said, ‘She is Bathsheba, the daughter of Eliam and the wife of Uriah the Hittite.’ Then David sent messengers to get her. She came to him, and he slept with her. (Now she was purifying herself from her monthly uncleanness.) Then she went back home. The woman conceived and sent word to David, saying, ‘I am pregnant.’”
(2 Samuel 11:1-5 NIV)

 

David sent away all of the people who he would listen to. He had no one around who was able or willing to tell him the truth. He had only “yes-men” around him. If we are going to be who God called us to be and fulfill His vision, we need to ensure that we have people who are willing and able to tell us the truth and people who we will listen to. David had people around him, but no one who could tell him the truth, and no one he’d listen to. In order to become who God has called us to be, we need to continually be growing in our own leadership and character. Therefore, we need to position ourselves to receive input and feedback from those around us.

 

1. Leaders must be able to receive feedback and correction from various sources:

  • Leaders and mentors.

“Have confidence in your leaders and submit to their authority, because they keep watch over you as those who must give an account. Do this so that their work will be a joy, not a burden, for that would be of no benefit to you.” (Hebrews 13:17 NIV)

“Where there is no guidance, a people falls, but in an abundance of counselors there is safety.” (Proverbs 11:14 NIV)

 We need leaders we can receive from who will speak into our lives and challenge us. We need to submit to their leadership. Submission is only submission when we don’t agree and God will put us in situations where our wills are crossed to teach us to submit. We need to seek out godly leaders and mentors to speak into our lives.

  • Those closest to us. (Galatians 2:11-14 NIV)

People who see us on a consistent basis (our spouses, our closest friends, and coworkers) know us best and can give us the most accurate feedback on our character and spiritual health. We typically perform for those above us and our real selves come out to those closest to us. We need to give them permission to give us feedback and correction.

  • Those we lead.

Do we hear feedback from those we lead? If not, we may have unintentionally created a culture where people don’t feel safe to push feedback up to us. When we don’t receive feedback, we assume no news is good news. In reality, no news over a period of time is more likely a signal of bad news. To be deceived is to be unable to see, and we need feedback from those who see our blind spots.

 

2. Leaders must be able to give feedback and correction to others in constructive ways.

  • To those above us. (Lead Up)

  • To coworkers and those close to us. (Lead Across)

  • To those we lead. (Lead Down)

 

3. We must raise up other leaders who can receive and give feedback and correction.

We need to create a culture where failure isn’t fatal and feedback and correction is consistent and redemptive.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • When was the last time you received feedback from your leaders, mentors, coworkers or those closest to you and those you lead? What happened and how did you grow from it?

  • Self-Assessment. How well do we receive feedback from others? Do you dismiss it? Do you consider and receive it? Who do we have closest to us who can give us real feedback?

 

Prayer:

  • Pray for humility to receive feedback from others.

  • Pray for courage to give loving feedback to others.

 

Communications:

  • Adopt an Ohana: We will not be receiving monetary donations this year. However, we are looking for groups and individuals to serve at the “Fun Fest” happening November 24, 10:00am to 1:00pm, at the Waipahu United Church of Christ. If you’re interested in serving, visit the Adopt an Ohana table after any of our weekend services for more information.

  • Growth Track: Due to the busyness of the holiday season, we will not be having Growth Track in December. The new cycle will begin in January of 2019.


 

Uncovering Servant Treasure

Uncovering Servant Treasure

“…But whoever would be great among you must be your servant…”
(Matthew 20:26 ESV)

Serving is part of growing as disciples.

“But as the believers rapidly multiplied, there were rumblings of discontent. The Greek-speaking believers complained about the Hebrew-speaking believers, saying that their widows were being discriminated against in the daily distribution of food. So the Twelve called a meeting of all the believers. They said, ‘We apostles should spend our time teaching the word of God, not running a food program. And so, brothers, select seven men who are well respected and are full of the Spirit and wisdom. We will give them this responsibility. Then we apostles can spend our time in prayer and teaching the word.’ Everyone liked this idea, and they chose the following: Stephen (a man full of faith and the Holy Spirit), Philip, Procorus, Nicanor, Timon, Parmenas, and Nicolas of Antioch (an earlier convert to the Jewish faith). These seven were presented to the apostles, who prayed for them as they laid their hands on them.” (Acts 6:1-6 NLT)

 

  • In most churches, 20% of the people do 80% of the serving. A healthy church is where everyone is serving in some capacity.

  • Serving moves people from attenders to disciples. Having responsibility allows people to take ownership in the church.

  • Serving helps us to grow in God as we practically focus on the meeting the needs of others. We learn serving in God’s house so that we can do it outside on a regular basis.

 

We must find them and get them activated, because they won’t find us.

  • Jesus went to prospective disciples and asked them to follow Him.

  • The gospels say He called to Himself those who were called.

  • We cannot wait for them to come to us through a mass appeal.

  • Standing behind a recruitment or enlistment table is too passive and usually ineffective.

 

First, pray that God move upon their hearts.

“Then he said to his disciples, ‘The harvest is plentiful, but the laborers are few; therefore pray earnestly to the Lord of the harvest to send out laborers into his harvest.’” (Matthew 9:37-38 ESV) 

“You do not have, because you do not ask.” (James 4:4 ESV)

 

  • Pray for God to bring prospects to your mind of those who aren’t yet serving.

  • Focus on friendships and trusted relationships. Select one or two people.

  • People value helping a person over filling a need, so give them the “why” before the “what.” We serve in response to God’s love and to help others experience that love through us.

  • Pray specifically for them this week.

 

Then, ask those you prayed for in person if they would be willing to serve.

  • Make a warm personal approach. 

  • Connect face to face, not by email or text, because the latter creates too much impersonal distance. 

  • Be specific about why we desire their help, and what will be expected of them.

  • Spell out clearly the time commitment, making it very short term and doable to start. (Begin with once a month)

  • Allow for divine inspiration, tension and conviction: “And let us consider how to stir up one another to love and good works, not neglecting to meet together, as is the habit of some, but encouraging one another, and all the more as you see the Day drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:24-25 ESV)

  • Our part is to ask warmly, and their part is to answer honestly. Don’t be pushy, but don’t deprive them of wrestling with healthy conviction. 

 

Start with appetizer taste tests.

  • The idea is first to get others activated without worrying about fitting them for their best position.

  • The gifts test “fit” will come later. Once people start to serve, they will usually continue to serve.

  • When people start serving anywhere, serving momentum will manifest everywhere, especially if they serve with people they click with and care about. Community synergy becomes an intrinsic reward.

  • When Pearlside was about 400-500, we had about 70% of Sunday goers serving because of a culture of personal asking. 

Discussion Questions:

  • Why is serving important to our spiritual growth?

  • Do the people in your groups understand the heart behind serving?

  • Who within your groups is currently not serving at all, and how can you get them activated?

Communications:

  • Seek Week – October 23-25

    Join us for corporate prayer and worship on October 23-25 from 6:30pm - 7:30pm at our Main Campus Worship Center. We believe in the power of prayer and fasting. As a church, we will embark on three days of dynamic intercession where we pause to seek God as He leads us forward on His mission.


  • Kaneohe Campus Permanent Relocation – November 4

Starting on November 4, our Kaneohe site will be permanently moving to Bay View Golf Course as its new location. This move is strategic, and puts us in the heart of Kaneohe and its surrounding community. Service times will be 8:00am and 9:30am, so please help us communicate the upcoming change.


  • Discipleship Track

    Our Discipleship Track is designed to lead people to a healthy relationship with God and others. Over the course of four weeks, you will gain a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church, and for influence in the world. We encourage everyone to grow through our Discipleship Classes.

WEDNESDAY

November 7 - December 5
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS

November 8 - December 6
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Multiply Like A Leader

How to Multiply Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 5: How to Multiply Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • Leadership development doesn’t happen organically; it happens strategically and intentionally.

  • If someone is a faithful disciple, they have the potential to become a leader, but that potential still needs to be developed.

  • Intentional leadership development is not unspiritual. It’s actually extremely spiritual, biblical, and essential.

Discussion Questions:

  • Which of the four leadership multipliers (identification, instruction, impartation, internship) do you think would be easiest to put into practice? Why?

  • Which one do you find most challenging? What can you do to address this challenge?

  • Have you viewed leadership development as something strategic or intentional? Why or why not?

Communications:

  • Growth Track: We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps over four weeks that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sundays 9:45am

    • Kapolei: Sundays 9:30am

Text "NEXT" to (808) 427-0034 for more information.


  • Financial Peace University: Dave Ramsey, nationally known Christian author and radio personality, teaches biblical principles and practices on stewarding the finances God has entrusted to us. This 9-week video course with weekly small group discussions and workshops have helped people “tell their dollar where to go” to get out of debt, save money, and plan for the future by following Dave’s “baby steps.”

    Every Sunday, September 23 - November 18  | 4:00pm - 5:30pm
    Location: Main Campus - ENLI 1
    (98-771 Oihana Place, Aiea, HI 96701)

    Cost: $99.00 Adult/Engaged/Married Couple
    $49.00 Full-time College Student
    FREE PREVIEW on Sunday, September 23

Register by Wednesday, September 19
*Limited to first 30 guest*


  • Freedom Weekend: This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us experience freedom from sin and walk out a new life of victory.

MEN'S

FRIDAY, OCTOBER 5
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, OCTOBER 6
(9:30am - 2:00pm) 

Main Campus (ENLI 1)

WOMEN'S

FRIDAY, SEPTEMBER 28
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, SEPTEMBER 29
(9:00am - 2:30pm) 

Main Campus (MPR 1)


 

How to Grow Like A Leader

How to Grow Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 4: How to Grow Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others while continuing to grow yourself.

  • Most growing organizations need more leaders immediately, but if our goal is strong and healthy leaders, we must slow down the process and resist the temptation to fast track our leadership training.

  • Leaders, no matter where they are on the leadership journey, must grow in their understanding of calling and in their ability to extend compassion to hurting people. Responding to God’s calling and having a heart of compassion toward people forces leaders to grow and upgrade their ability to communicate God’s message.

  • Leadership gifts are deposited in an instant. Godly character is developed over a lifetime. 

  • When a person has godly character, accomplishments are inevitable and do not even need to be listed.

Discussion Questions:

  • What has God called you to do? Where has God called you to serve? Who has God called you to walk with?

  • How do you usually respond to trials and suffering? How should you respond to trials and suffering?

  • What is the most difficult trial and testing of your faith you have experienced?

Communications:

  • Growth Track: We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps over four weeks that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sundays 9:45am

    • Kapolei: Sundays 9:30am

Text "NEXT" to (808) 427-0034 for more information.


  • Marriage Huddle: Like a new car, a marriage traveling together upon the road of life will eventually encounter bumps or potholes that may bring misalignment or friction into the marriage relationship. In the Marriage Huddle, John and Lisa Bevere, nationally known Christian speakers and authors, teach biblical principles of marriage and share their personal stories of challenge and victory in their DVD “The Story of Marriage.” This one day workshop includes viewing a section of the DVD, followed by small group discussions and related activities. These times of reflection and repentance have led to realignment and reuniting for many couples who have attended.

    Saturday, August 18  | 9:00am - 12:30pm
    Location: Main Campus
    (98-771 Oihana Place, Aiea, HI 96701)

    Cost: $5.00 per person | $7.00 for walk-ins
    (Breakfast included | Walk-in’s $12.00 per person)
    Register by Wednesday, August 15
    *Limited to first 50 guest*

    Child Care available (Nursery - Grade 6)
    Cost: $5.00 per child
    (Breakfast included | No childcare walk-ins)
    Register childcare by Tuesday, August 14


  • Discipleship Track: This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

WEDNESDAYS
September 5 - September 26
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS
September 6 - September 27
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Listen Like A Leader

How to Listen Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 3: How to Listen Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • If you want to lead, you need to learn how to listen.

  • We all need mentors and leaders who love us enough to speak the truth in love, and we need to make sure we listen when they speak.

  • All leaders need a group of friends who know and love them enough to speak the truth without worrying about offense.

  • Sometimes abandoning the voice of our followers is a bad idea, especially when those followers have more experience than we do.

  • When the leader listens, the whole team wins. As soon as we learn to listen like a leader, we will immediately start growing like a leader, which will help us rise to the multiplication challenge. 

Discussion Questions:

  • How do you respond when your leaders correct you? How do you respond when your peers/friends correct you? How do you respond to your critics?

  • Have you given anyone permission to speak into your life? Who? If not, make a list of people you will ask to do so.

  • What are the potential benefits and pitfalls of listening to your followers?

  • Do you create the kind of culture where your followers can put their ideas on the table? Do you seriously listen to them?

Communications:

  • Growth Track: We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm and 7:45pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sunday 9:45am

Text "NEXT" to (808) 427-0034 for more information.


  • Parenting Seminar: Whether you’re frustrated with the battles you’ve been facing or want to be proactive as a parent, learn to build the heart and character of your child by attending this informational seminar. Exploration of key values and principles will be covered. Appropriate for parents with children ages 0-18. Live speaker: Edwina Reyes, Marriage and Family Therapist. Register today!

    Saturday, July 21  | 9:00am - 12:00pm
    Location: Main Campus
    (98-771 Oihana Place, Aiea, HI 96701)

    Cost: $10.00 per person
    (Breakfast included | Walk-in’s $12.00 per person)
    Register by Wednesday, July 18

    Child Care available (Nursery - Grade 6)
    Cost: $5.00 per child
    (Breakfast included | No childcare walk-ins)
    Register childcare by Sunday, July 15


  • Discipleship Track: This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

WEDNESDAYS
July 11 - August 1
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS
July 12 - August 2
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Act Like A Leader

How to Act Like A Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 2: How to Act Like A Leader

Key Points:

  • Growing organizations rarely need more people with leadership titles, but they always need more people who act like leaders, with or without a title.

  • If you want more leaders, you need to find more people who act like leaders.

  • Leadership is supposed to be plural. If you are called to lead, then you are called to build a team so you can lead together.

  • If you want to act like a leader, first build your team, then lead your team. Everyone on the team can and should have a voice, but all voices are not equal in wisdom and authority. At the end of the day, teams still need to be led.

  • Once we get the relationship right, discipleship and leadership will naturally follow. Strong and healthy relationships produce strong and healthy leaders because leadership is relationships.

Discussion Questions:

  • What are the benefits and dangers of someone leading without a title or position?

  • Do you tend to trust or micromanage those you lead? What are the potential pitfalls of both?

  • What are ways you can bring energy to your team?

  • Do you look for already-developed leaders around you, or do you look for individuals with potential to develop into great leaders? Why?

Communications:

  • New Growth Track Times: We are rolling out new times for our Growth Track. We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    • Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm and 7:45pm

    • Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    • Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

    • Regal: Sunday 9:45am

    • Kaneohe: Sunday 6:00pm


  • Camp Impact: If you are in middle or high school, our annual Youth Camp will be held at Camp Pu’u Kahea in Waianae on July 15-17, 2018. Cost is $125 until June 22, and will be $150 thereafter. Registration and donations are received at any of our weekend services. The camp will be limited to the first 150 students. Follow @gbcradical on Instagram for most recent updates.


  • Financial Peace University: Dave Ramsey, nationally known Christian author and radio personality, teaches biblical principles and practices on stewarding the finances God has entrusted to us. This 9-week DVD course with weekly small group discussions and workshops have helped people “tell their dollar where to go” to get out of debt, save money, and plan for the future by following Dave’s “baby steps.”

Every Monday, June 25 - August 20 | 6:30pm - 8:00pm
Main Campus – ENLI 2
Cost
$99.00 Adult/Engaged/Married Couple
$49.00 Full-time College Student
FREE PREVIEW night on Monday, June 25
Register by Wednesday, June 20 
*Limited to first 30 guests*


  • Freedom Weekend: This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us experience freedom from sin and walk out a new life of victory.

MEN'S

FRIDAY, JUNE 22
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, JUNE 23
(9:30am - 2:00pm) 

Main Campus (ENLI 1)

WOMEN'S

FRIDAY, JULY 13
 (7:30pm - 10:00pm)
- and -

SATURDAY, JULY 14
(9:30am - 2:30pm) 

Main Campus (MPR 1)


  • Discipleship Track: This class is designed to lead people to healthy relationships with God and others. It will give you a deeper understanding of the gospel which will transform your life, equip you for ministry in the church and for influence in the world.

WEDNESDAYS
July 11 - August 1
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm

THURSDAYS
July 12 - August 2
Main Campus (ENLI 1)
7:00pm - 9:00pm


 

How to Think Like a Leader

How to Think Like a Leader

The Multiplication Challenge

Chapter 1: How to Think Like a Leader

Key Points:

  • Leadership is serving. Therefore, to think like a leader means to think like a servant.

  • The best leaders lead with the heart of a servant. That’s how Jesus led and that’s how He expects us to lead.

  • When we reduce leadership to position, glory, and especially authority, we usually end up with a lot of indignant and angry people who argue and fight for their place in the pecking order.

  • Serving and saving sinful humanity was an end in itself—not a means to leadership and greatness. For Jesus, leading and influencing was a means to serve.

Discussion Questions:

  • Do you see serving as a means to leadership, or do you see leadership as a means to serving? What is the difference? Why does it matter?

  • Describe a leader you work with who exemplifies servant leadership.

  • Why do you want to be a leader? What motivates your desire to lead others?

Communications:

  • New Growth Track Times: We are rolling out new times for our Growth Track. We are encouraging everyone to walk new people into this class so that they can discover their redemptive purpose and live the life God created for them. It is made up of four steps that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover purpose, and serve others.

    o   Main Campus: Saturdays 6:00pm, Sundays 7:30am, 9:15am, 11:15am, 6:00pm, and 7:45pm

    o   Kaneohe: Sundays 9:45am

    o   Cityside: Sundays 10:30am

  • Freedom Weekend: This powerful class is designed to allow God to speak His truth to us, draw closer to us, and transform us in a powerful way. The goal of this class is to help us experience freedom from sin and walk out a new life of victory. Our men’s weekend is on June 22-23. Our women’s weekend is on July 13-14.

 

Leading A Healthy Discussion

Leading A Healthy Discussion

April 2018


Part of our roles as small group leaders is to facilitate healthy discussions that lead to growth. Quality conversations will help a person’s spiritual and emotional health.  When leading group, our main goal is to create discussion that allows to people process their lives through the lens of God’s Word. Here are a few practices and principles that can help us lead healthy discussions.
 

1.     Preparation—Failing to plan is planning to fail.

The key to facilitating healthy discussions is being prepared. This means setting time to look over the weekly guide beforehand. Our discussion guides are sermon-based material from the previous weekend’s message. We can better prepare by taking notes during the sermon, and/or even watching/listening to it again as a refresher. (You may also want to encourage the group to do the same.)

Tips:

  • Look over the guide and already have in mind what you plan to share with the group. Remember, your transparency sets the tone for the depth in conversation.

  • Have an idea where you want the discussion to go. Talk it over with your apprentice and assistant. Brainstorm additional open-ended questions you could ask for further discussion.

  • Be mindful of time, especially for seekers. Take a few minutes to warm up and start (5-8 minutes) and spend majority of the time on the sermon discussion. Group could last anywhere from 60-75 minutes.

 

2.     Participation—Facilitate, don’t lecture.

In many cases, the person leading the group tends to do most of the talking. When this happens, group can seem like it is a lecture. A leader gets the conversation started and facilitates discussion by getting everyone to participate and share. This means asking good follow up questions and having others speak into specific topics. A leader is also aware of when the conversation is going off topic, and quickly brings it back into focus. Here are some quick transition statements when the discussion has gone off topic:

  • “It’s seems like we’re getting off topic. Let’s get back to the discussion guide.”

  • “Thanks for sharing. We can talk more in depth about that after group. In the meantime, does anyone else want to share?”

  • “I’d love to hear more about that when we’re done, but I want to make sure that we give time for others to share on this topic right now.”

While this may take some courage at first, it can become instinctive over time. Group members will grow in confidence knowing that discussions will be focused and that no person or issue can dominate and completely take over. 

Tips:

  • Speak the truth in love. Wisely use the scriptures from the guide and other verses to address issues and opinions that arise. Let the Bible speak for itself.

  • Consider clustering if more than 6 people. The smaller setting gives everyone a chance to share in a timely manner.

  • Be aware of body language and eye contact of members. Everyone should be focused on the person sharing. If someone isn’t paying attention, quickly involve them in the conversation.

  • Remove as many distractions as possible for focused conversations. (Phones, text messages, etc. can be taken after group unless an emergency.)

  • Value group members’ insights. You can affirm what someone has shared by saying “thanks for sharing that”, “that’s really good”, or “thank you for being honest.”

  • Make sure each person has an action step they will take after the discussion. Follow up with them for accountability.

 

3.     Prayer—The power for change.

Lasting change doesn’t come by only processing, but through prayer. Prayer invites the power of God to move in a person’s life. Make sure to open the meeting in prayer and have time to close by praying for specific points and needs of members. There are general points included in the discussion guide that give direction for prayer.

Tips:

  • Be mindful of the environment you’re in. In public places, pray with your eyes open.

  • Mix up prayer. One person can pray for the group, each person can pray for a point, or you can have people pair up and pray for each other.

  • Be sensitive to new people. Protect them from feeling like they have to pray out loud.

  • Always include praying for a lost person that God has placed on our heart.

Remember, the end goal of group discussion is life change, not perfect discussions or getting through all the material. Be open to the Holy Spirit during each group meeting and follow where He leads. God is the one who does the work in our hearts. As leaders, we are simply creating an environment for discipleship and change to occur.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • What stood out to you from the teaching?

  • What are some things that you have done in group that helped with discussion?

  • What adjustments do you need to make to facilitate better discussions?

  • What are some current issues within group that you’ve had difficulty with?

  • Who are you empowering to facilitate discussions in the group?

 


 

Communications:

  • Continue to pray for and follow-up with individuals that you brought to our weekend services. Let’s make sure we are consistently connecting and walking them towards discipleship.

  • Growth Track – Starting this month, Growth Track will be on Saturdays 6:00pm, Sunday 9:15am and 6:00pm at Main Campus, and Sunday 9:45am at Kaneohe. The Cityside cycle will resume in May.

  • Discipleship Track – Our next cycle start on Wednesday, May 2 and Thursday, May 3. Both classes will be held at Main Campus (ENLI 1) from 7:00pm-9:00pm.

 

Leading From A Healthy Soul

Leading From A Healthy Soul

Spring Discipleship Summit 2018


The effects of an unhealthy soul are most obvious in our behaviors.

Behavior: Our behaviors are coping mechanisms that we have learned that are often unconscious and harmful.

Emotions: Are below the surface, less obvious but fuel our behaviors.

  • Instead of “why,” start with “what.”

  • “What was I feeling before I acted?”

  • Sometimes the emotion is triggered by a present event, sometimes it is triggered by a past event.

Belief: Lies or truth fuel our emotions that fuel our behaviors.

  • “What lie am I believing about myself when I felt that way?”

 

What do we do?

  1. Identify the lie that we believe and replace it with the Gospel truth.

a. Recognize the lies we believe.

“When the Spirit of truth comes, he will guide you into all the truth…” (John 16:13)

b. Repent for believing the lie.

“Whoever conceals his transgressions will not prosper, but he who confesses and forsakes them will obtain mercy.” (Proverbs 28:13)

 c. Receive and believe God’s truth.

“and you will know the truth, and the truth will set you free.” (John 8:32)

 d. Renew your mind daily with God’s truth.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind, that by testing you may discern what is the will of God, what is good and acceptable and perfect.” (Romans 12:2)

2. Be honest with your behaviors and emotions.

3. Tell your story: be “known” to someone who will love and accept you just as you are.

“Therefore, confess your sins to one another and pray for one another, that you may be healed” (James 5:16)

 

What do we do for others?

1. Create a safe place for people to tell their stories.

2. Ask people what they are feeling and what lies they are believing.

3. Help them to replace the lies that they believe with God’s truth.

 

Summit Takeaways:

  • A healthy soul comes as we are proactive in processing with others.

  • Cultivate safe environments of trust for transparency in group.

  • The health in our soul improves as we help others.

 

Discussion Questions:

  • What stood out to you from the teaching?

  • How do you think you can apply this to your leadership?

  • What are some of the things that create a safe environment for people to share?

  • Who can you help lead to a place of health in their soul?

Fill Up and Follow Up

Fill Up and Follow Up

Main Thought:

As we enter into a new year, we want to make sure we start it right with God first. Here are two practical ways for us to do this:

 

1.     Fill Up.

Spiritually, we want to make sure that our tank is full. We need to set a time to fill up and replenish our soul. We primarily do this through a focused time of prayer, word, and reflection.

 

2.     Follow Up.

Relationally, we want to follow up with people. Since the end of the year is full of distractions, January is when everyone’s schedule is open for connection. We need to leverage this window by following up and following through with those we were reaching and inviting during the Christmas season.

 

How we begin the year determines how the year will go. We want to come close to God and stay close with others. As we are filled up, we will have the grace to follow up with those we are believing God for. Let’s start 2018 with the right heart and mindset together.

 

Discussion Questions:

·  What will you do to fill up spiritually? What are you believing God for in 2018?

·  Who do you need to follow up with? What will you do to consistently connect with them?

 


Upcoming Events:

  • Prayer and Fasting

We will begin the new year with prayer and fasting. Starting on January 10, we will commit each Wednesday to a complete fast and end it with prayer at our Main Campus (Worship Center) from 6:30pm - 7:30pm. We are encouraging everyone to choose one day a week to fast, and each Grace Group to attend one of the four prayer pockets for the month (Jan. 10, 17, 24, & 31). We also have a 24-day devotional to help you personally connect with God. Pick-up one at our Connection Center or download it online at pearlside.org/devotional.

  • Discipleship Summit

Our Spring Discipleship Summit will take place in February. The theme will be “Leading from a Healthy Soul.” We will have two pockets to choose from:

o   Monday, February 5, 2018 from 7:00pm – 9:30pm

o   Saturday, February 10, 2018 from 9:00am – 11:30am

You can register through the Pearlside App or Pearlside.org/events.

Leveraging The Holidays For Discipleship

Leveraging The Holidays For Discipleship

“And let us not neglect our meeting together, as some people do, but encourage one another, especially now that the day of his return is drawing near.” (Hebrews 10:25 NLT)

We want to leverage the holidays for discipleship, not lose discipleship during the holidays.
 

Three ways we can leverage the holidays for discipleship:

1. Plan ahead.

  • When we fail to plan, we plan to fail.

  • Look at upcoming dates and plan around them. (Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day, New Year’s Eve, etc.)

  • Plan outreaches, dinners, and parties in advance. So you can let the group and those you are reaching out to know ahead of time for scheduling purposes.

  • Consider doing things with other Grace Groups so you can create community with others in the church.

 

2. Leverage what you already have to do.

  • Include evangelism and discipleship into the things you are already doing.

  • Not adding more, but being purposeful and inclusive with what you have to do.

 

3. Fight to keep meeting.

  • Do your best to meet consistently. Cancelling group is the LAST resort.

  • Think outside the box. Be willing to change the day and time so that MOST can make it.

  • Consider having a “recapture”, another pocket to get those who couldn’t make group. Allow your apprentice to lead group on a different day.

 

Upcoming Holidays:

Saturday, November 11 – Veterans Day

Thursday, November 23 – Thanksgiving Day

Friday, December 22 to Sunday, December 24 – Christmas Weekend Services

Monday, December 25 – Christmas Day

Sunday, December 31 – New Year’s Eve

 

Discipleship Questions:

  • Look at a calendar. What plans does your Grace Group have to leverage discipleship during the upcoming holidays? What are some ideas that you can do as a Grace Group?

  • Reflect and share experiences of successful activities done as a grace group.

  • What can you do personally to leverage the holidays for evangelism?

 

Life On Life Discipleship

Life On Life Discipleship

Fall Discipleship Summit 2017

 

Discipleship is relationship, and this happens as we do “life on life” with the people we are reaching out to and raising up in leadership. In our groups, we need to have a blend of believers, pre-believers, and seekers in order to maintain health. Groups tend to remain stuck if it’s consistently the same people. As leaders, we need to be a model to our groups of what we want them to live out.

 

Discussion Questions on Discipleship:

Personal:

  • Who is one person you are currently reaching out to?

  • What are you doing consistently within your week to reach out to them?

Grace Group:

  • What’s the mix of individuals in your group? Do you have a blend of believers, pre-believers, and seekers?

  • How is the group growing in discipleship?

  • What are you doing to encourage your group to reach out to others?

 

As we do “life on life,” our groups will begin to grow. That means we need to develop leaders to sustain the growth. Raising leaders takes F.A.I.T.H. We need to find people who are Faithful, Available, Involved, Teachable, and Hungry.

Discussion Questions on Leadership:

  • Who is one person you are raising up into leadership?

  • Which of the F.A.I.T.H. qualities do they possess? What do they need to develop?

  • How are you giving this person opportunities to grow in their leadership?

Prayer Points:

  • For the Holy Spirit to move on the names you wrote on your 5x5 Prayer Card. Pray for their hearts to be softened and for them to receive Christ.

  • For new leaders to rise up and begin new Grace Groups that are focused on reaching out to new individuals, groups, and areas of influence.

 


Important Communications:

Revamped Discipleship Process

  • Growth Track: Designed to establish seekers and guests to become believers in their faith. This class is a series of four steps that happens every Sunday, that equip you to follow Jesus, connect to the church, discover your purpose and serve others. A person can begin at any step.

  • Discipleship Track: Designed for believers to become equipped disciples. This class is a series of four weeks that have separate cycles on Wednesday and Thursday every other month. It is highly encouraged for Grace Groups to take this track together, and to attend each class consecutively from the beginning.

  • How to Register: Those who want to take either track can do so by registering at Pearlside.org or our Pearlside App. For the Growth Track, you can also TEXT NEXT to (808) 427-0034 or walk in.